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From Plato to Jung, from Myers to Kiersey, the study of single, complex lives over time from a
variety of different angles has fascinated us. Why have we had so much success in some scientific
realms and so little in others, such as unveiling the mysteries of the human mind and heart, and
in particular… love? The typology of emotional temperaments is altogether a suggestive and intriguing system. Its
practicality lies in the thought, first of all, that not everyone can possibly like the same things,
the realization of which would be wisdom indeed for many, and, second of all, that different methods
of persuasion, may be necessary for different people. Most of science’s triumphs over the past few centuries are rooted in Isaac Newton’s principals.
Newton’s world was a mechanical one, where cause and effect were clear and systems followed
universal laws. The idea behind such mechanics is to break down the whole into smaller and
smaller parts to understand the system. But modern behaviorism has shown us that this process
only works for systems of low complexity. The human mind on matters of love and emotion, however,
is much more complex. It’s not that cause and effect don’t exist in that realm; it’s just that not
every effect has a proportionate cause, and our knowledge and predictive abilities in this area are
still in the development stages.
This all just means that when it comes to the study of our emotions and emotional reactions, we’re
in pre-school. But how can anyone be rational in a world where knowledge is so limited? Because
of the limitations of the human mind, and the infinite structure of the social and physical
environments in which the mind operates, we must use approximate methods to handle most tasks
involving our emotions. These methods are known as heuristics.
In order to achieve the desired outcome you will have to be realistic. You really must ask yourself 'What can I handle right NOW?' Let's face it, most people would love to find that special soulmate- in fact, we make it the
default mate type on our site. But we're not always ready to accept that level of committment
and responsibility into our lives. But this certainly does not mean we don't need a companion,
partner, friend, or lover to share life and grow with. Each fulfils a different need and shapes
us along the way to hopefully finding "the one." So we invite you to look below at our sites
different mate types, and the descriptions that go along with them. We wish you the best in your search
for the most suitable mate. |
| The Soulmate Are you looking for more than just chemistry? Someone with whom you can feel a spiritual connection? Someone who knows your feelings without being told? No secret here. This is that long-term relationship with a spiritual connection to go along with all the other good stuff: Best friends, lovers, companions. They share similar goals and beliefs, and always seemed to be joined at the hip (in many ways). These are couples who are lifepartners and believe in and are searching for a 'forever' permanent relationship. The Playmate Are you looking for someone to have fun with, travel or vacation with? But without the pressure of long-term committment? Playmates offer each other friendship and romance. They devote themselves to pleasing and "lightening up"their mates. They are looking for a monogomous relationship, but without the pre-existing intention of settling down, getting married, or hoping "this is the one." The Workmate Are you looking for someone with the "work hard, play hard" routine, who like yourself, has a very busy professional schedule? These couples tend to "talk shop," work in similar professions, have similar short-term or intermediate goals. They date with the understanding that their careers come first, and they are able to date around each others schedules. The Thoughtmate Are you looking for someone who is always willing to share whatever is on his/her mind? Someone who will talk things through with you until an issue is perfectly clear? Thoughtmates often take mate selection very seriously with the attitude that there is no room for mistakes since the choice is for life. This requires careful and rigorous study of potential mates and the situation as a whole. |
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| Potential Partners Thoughtmate - Soulmate The Thoughtmate and the Soulmate both live in a world of insight and endless dreams and possibilities. The soul-searching Soulmate greatly admires the Thoughtmate's strength of character and strong sense of themselves. The Soulmate is often bothered by the Thoughtmate's self-control and resistance in expressing emotion yet this same trait is often so attractive to the insightful and expressive Soulmate. Playmate - Workmate The Playmate and the Workmate compliment each other in their temperament. The adventurous Playmate finds comfort with the responsible Workmate and vice-versa. The relationship often involves teasing where the Workmate sees the Playmate as another child to take care off, yet the two often enjoy this type of interaction. Playmate - Playmate The two Playmates will have many hobbies and activities in common and when they come together they can light up the town. Yet, with so much excitement a burn out eventually occurs and the two can loose interest in each other. Workmate -Workmate The two Workmates enjoy each other's sense of responsibility and are comforted in the stability that the relationship brings. Yet, conflict can arise when both mates try to rule the house and believe that their way of doing things is the right one. Soulmate - Soulmate The two Soulmates can get along very well together especially when both take on the same ethical or humanitarian project. They will often develop a very strong and intimate bond. Yet, their intimacy may become an invasion of privacy and they can become an irritation to each other. Thoughtmate - Thoughtmate The two Thoughtmates are fascinated by each other's world of inventions and discoveries. Yet, their absorption in their work and aloof manner can lead to distance in the relationship. Playmate - Soulmate The Playmate is attracted to the Soulmate for his/her idealism and romanticism. However in the long run the Playmate doesn't quite comprehend the Soulmate's need for personal and spiritual growth. Playmate - Thoughtmate The Playmate is attracted to the Thoughtmate for his/her theoretical take on life and pragmatism. Yet the Plamate often grows tired of the Thoughtmate's focus on the constant quest for knowledge. Workmate - Soulmate The Workmate's strong sense of dependability is reassuring to the Soulmate. The Soulmate also respect's the Workmate's strong sense of morals and strong sense of right and wrong. Yet, the Soulmate deep inner world is a mystery to the sensible workmate and can lead to disappointment for the Soulmate. The Soulmate has a strong desire for romantic sexuality and spiritual bonding which the Workmate might attempt to acquiesce to but this lack of understanding can lead to frustration by the Soulmate leaving the workmate feeling unappreciated. Workmate - Thoughtmate The Thoughtmate's preoccupation with work can often lead to little time for home building, yet the this task is one which the Workmate finds great pleasure in doing. The Workmate enjoys tradition and setting up home and helps the Thoughtmate meet his/her social obligations. Yet, the workmate has little interest in the intellectual pursuits of the Thoughtmate leading the Thoughtmate to feel a lack of connection to their mate. |